Going to the service of a loved one is something that can make a big difference in the process of healing, but it is also important to know when not to attend. There are instances when it is a better choice to skip the service. If you want to be sure that you know when these instances are, there are some tips that directors of funeral homes in Laguna Woods, CA want you to remember.
One instance when it may be better not to go to the service is if you are not sure if it is a private service or not. This is something that is very common, since families sometimes tend to want to have a more intimate service. If you do not see much information out there about the service and you do not see it mentioned in local papers, it can mean the family prefer to have only a small number of people present. You do not want to intrude. If you are not sure, ask the family or someone who knows them well.
Another instance to consider is if you are sick. If you are sick, going to the service can make you worse and can even make others ill. You do not want to do that. Let the family know why you are not attending the service so that they know. They will understand.
If you would have to travel to attend the service, this, too, may mean that you cannot go if you cannot afford to do so or if you cannot take time off work. Be sure to send the family a note or even flowers on the day of the service to let them know that even though you cannot be there in person, you are thinking about them.
If you have children and do not have anyone who can watch them, you may also want to skip the service. Children can get bored easily and that can make them fussy. You do not want to bother anyone with a child who is making noise. If you cannot find someone to watch your children, take the time to let the family know you will not be able to attend.
These are some common reasons why you may not be able to go to a loved one’s service. It can be difficult to make this decision but it is usually better if you are sick or if you cannot travel to the service to send your condolences and not go to the service. You can learn more about these instances by reaching out to a Laguna Woods, CA funeral home like us at O’Connor Mortuary. We have years of experience and we are dedicated to helping everyone who has lost a loved one manage the arrangements they need to make. Give us a call now or visit us today at one of our locations to learn more about all of the options we can offer.