Tag Archives: What to Say

Stop Saying “Don’t Give Up.” Please.

We say a lot of things to grieving people that under normal circumstances would be fine, hopefully even encouraging, but to people facing a life or death situation, a trauma, shock or loss, these can be the most backward and … Continue reading

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A Crash Course in Listening: 3 Do’s and Don’ts

  One of the biggest concerns people have when they encounter a bereaved¬†individual isn’t (strangely enough) how the bereaved person is doing,¬†but “what do I say to them?” The secret to “what to say” is simple in theory, but ironic … Continue reading

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Deleting “Shoulds” from Your Grief Vocabulary

One of the most problematic phrases in our culture’s grief vocabulary are the words, “You shouldn’t be … (fill in the blank with whatever makes them uncomfortable).” In general, our human nature is uneasy around sadness or any deep emotional … Continue reading

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How to Talk to Grieving People … Never Saying “At Least…”

Last month I wrote about the power of responding to people in grief with memories. So many of us don’t know what to say to a grieving person and even if we do manage to say something as simple as … Continue reading

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“I Remember” || What to Say About 9/11 & Grief

  For a person in grief, there are almost no two sweeter words than, “I remember …” Those two words begin stories, spark memories, open old joys, and bring feelings back to us with blazing clarity. On a day like … Continue reading

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