Tag Archives: Tough Stuff

Saying Goodbye to “Amber, Pamber, Peaches, Pumpkin, Pie” & 5 Ways to Pay Tribute to Your Beloved Pet

I call my friend Betty my “California Mom”. We met over seven years ago serving together at church. One of many reasons we bonded immediately is due to our love for dogs.  Neither of us would be offended if you … Continue reading

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Put Me In The Corner: Brawling with Grief

Imagine for a moment that you are a professional strike artist. A master of the body shot, and a prolific producer of the “right hook”.  You’re fast, strong, and calculating. Anybody who has ever stepped in the ring with you … Continue reading

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It Started with An Earthquake: A Cancer Journey

  I t    S t a r t e d   w i t h    A n   E a r t h q u a k e   Thursday, January 3, 2013, 5 am. I am awakened out … Continue reading

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9/11 || Why We Remember Even When It’s Hard

I was just in high school when 9/11 happened. Just a naive 15-year-old. I saw the second plane hit, I ran back to tell my mom what was happening. I remember her curling her hair with tears streaming down her … Continue reading

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“So, Who Was the Funeral For?” | Creating Sacred Moments

  I recently attended a service where the officiant said, “funerals aren’t for the person who died, they are for the living.” I initially disliked this idea, feeling that it sounded vastly self-serving at a time that was set-aside for … Continue reading

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Finding Comfort in Words, Not Possessions

I have been in spring-cleaning mode all the way through summer. After my mom died four years ago, our family kept our house like a museum. I don’t mean that things were neatly organized and everything was nicely displayed. I … Continue reading

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“This is How We Die”: A Morning with a Hospice Nurse

On Tuesday morning all I knew was that I was setting up an O’Connor table at the Heartland Hospice event that we were co-hosting. I got the table cloth & brochures all set out, greeted the attendees, and sat down … Continue reading

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When Mother’s Day is Hard: For Those Who Have Lost Their Mother or Child

  Mother’s Day.   Perhaps at one time, maybe just last year, this was a day full of flowers, hugs, laughter & good food. It’s astonishing what a death can take away from us, that even a holiday like this, … Continue reading

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Why Too Many Funerals Aren’t Worth Going To (& How To Fix That!)

  If you’ve ever attended one of Dr. Bill Hoy’s seminars, you’ve inevitably heard about the importance of ceremony, how he attends every funeral he can, and why he thinks funerals are so important. Most of us are probably not … Continue reading

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How to Grieve on Facebook: Wearing Black in A Virtual World

The internet has changed our lives so much. From the way we interact, to the way we learn, and even the way we shop. You can do ALMOST anything online, and now we’re beginning to see people grieve there as … Continue reading

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