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Forget About Closure: A New Way to Look at Grief

  The word “closure” is a tricky and usually misused word. Taken from it’s Latin root “clausura,” literally meaning “to close,” the word is often used to signify what we expect or hope people are feeling at the end of a funeral … Continue reading

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Death Died a Long Time Ago

As Easter approaches and Spring continues to bloom all over our beautiful county, my heart and eyes behold the hope of this season; the hope of life. A favorite song of mine growing up had the line “Death died a long … Continue reading

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How Long Does Grief Last? The Surprising Answer

We all want to know how long something terrible is going to last, knowing gives us a sense of control over the unknown and comforts us with the confident knowledge of an end. But grief is very different. We know that … Continue reading

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Grief During the Holidays: 5 Ways for Adults and Children to Remember

Each year as we prepare for and pass by our Candlelight Service of Remembrance I am confronted with the multitudes of losses experienced in our community in just 1 year. I think of these families and wonder how their holidays are … Continue reading

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A Crash Course in Listening: 3 Do’s and Don’ts

  One of the biggest concerns people have when they encounter a bereaved individual isn’t (strangely enough) how the bereaved person is doing, but “what do I say to them?” The secret to “what to say” is simple in theory, but ironic … Continue reading

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After They Die: Sorting Through Their “Stuff”

  Getting rid of someone’s stuff after they die is tough. It is an admission. For some people, it is the ultimate act of reconciling the permanence of a loss. A lot of “stuff” – baseball cards, the shirt from … Continue reading

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Grieving Non-Death Losses

Last year I attended a conference where the topic of a panel was the significance of grief connected to non-death losses. The researchers focused their sites on college campuses and found that many students were ranking break-ups, friendship changes, divorces … Continue reading

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Handling the Holidays: Adjusting to the Loss

  For some of you, this is not the first holiday where you will be missing people you love. You “survived” the holidays last year but maybe just barely. Perhaps you feel like you can’t get in the spirit of … Continue reading

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Deleting “Shoulds” from Your Grief Vocabulary

One of the most problematic phrases in our culture’s grief vocabulary are the words, “You shouldn’t be … (fill in the blank with whatever makes them uncomfortable).” In general, our human nature is uneasy around sadness or any deep emotional … Continue reading

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Taking the Urn Out of the Closet

A short story: Mary spent that last 3 years of her life in an Alzheimer’s home. As the memory of her friends and family faded from her mind, so the number of her visitors dwindled down to just one; her … Continue reading

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