Category Archives: Community

Stop Saying “Don’t Give Up.” Please.

We say a lot of things to grieving people that under normal circumstances would be fine, hopefully even encouraging, but to people facing a life or death situation, a trauma, shock or loss, these can be the most backward and … Continue reading

Posted in Community, Perspective | Tagged , | Leave a comment

Look & Laugh, but Don’t TALK About Death: Halloween & Death Exposure

Before you think that I am anti-Halloween because of the ideas expressed below, I want to say that Halloween is actually my very favorite holiday. I love the community feeling of the night, of children scampering off in sweet costumes … Continue reading

Posted in Community, News, Perspective | Leave a comment

Say “Died”: Don’t Lie to Kids About Death

    Talking to kids about grief is a classic example of ways adults over-complicate, over-think, and over-explain the ideas of death and what it’s like to miss someone. Talking about death is uncomfortable for a lot of people, mostly … Continue reading

Posted in Community, News, Resources & Information, Seasons of Life | Tagged | Leave a comment

A Crash Course in Listening: 3 Do’s and Don’ts

  One of the biggest concerns people have when they encounter a bereaved individual isn’t (strangely enough) how the bereaved person is doing, but “what do I say to them?” The secret to “what to say” is simple in theory, but ironic … Continue reading

Posted in Community, Inspiration, News, Self-Help | Tagged , , | 1 Comment

25 Years + 1 Mortuary = A Career of Meaning

Monday, December 1st, marked the 25th Work-iversary of Jeff Turner, our Chief Administrative Officer! Feeling that this event merited more than a celebratory lunch, speech and many “Congratulations,” we decided a blog was in order. We have all pooled together … Continue reading

Posted in Community, Inspiration, News | Tagged , , , | 4 Comments

Deleting “Shoulds” from Your Grief Vocabulary

One of the most problematic phrases in our culture’s grief vocabulary are the words, “You shouldn’t be … (fill in the blank with whatever makes them uncomfortable).” In general, our human nature is uneasy around sadness or any deep emotional … Continue reading

Posted in Ceremonies, Community, Inspiration, News | Tagged , , | 9 Comments

How to Talk to Grieving People … Never Saying “At Least…”

Last month I wrote about the power of responding to people in grief with memories. So many of us don’t know what to say to a grieving person and even if we do manage to say something as simple as … Continue reading

Posted in Community, Perspective | Tagged | 11 Comments

“I Remember” || What to Say About 9/11 & Grief

  For a person in grief, there are almost no two sweeter words than, “I remember …” Those two words begin stories, spark memories, open old joys, and bring feelings back to us with blazing clarity. On a day like … Continue reading

Posted in Ceremonies, Community, News | Tagged , , | 31 Comments

Meaning-Making: The 3 Acts That Give Purpose to Pain

I recently saw an instagram post that wasn’t a weird selfie or amazing plate of food, but was in fact, something far more sad. It was a picture of a darling little red-headed boy with the hashtag #redballoonsforryan. A friend … Continue reading

Posted in Community, Inspiration, Perspective | Tagged , | 30 Comments

Learning from my Four Fathers

Four Fathers I get a haunting pit in my stomach now when Father’s Day approaches. Don’t get me wrong, I love the holiday, but working at a mortuary puts a twist on how you see special days like these. Every … Continue reading

Posted in Community, Inspiration | Tagged , , , | 44 Comments