Forget About Closure: A New Way to Look at Grief

  The word “closure” is a tricky and usually misused word. Taken from it’s Latin root “clausura,” literally meaning “to close,” the word is often used to signify what we expect or hope people are feeling at the end of a funeral … Continue reading

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Death Died a Long Time Ago

As Easter approaches and Spring continues to bloom all over our beautiful county, my heart and eyes behold the hope of this season; the hope of life. A favorite song of mine growing up had the line “Death died a long … Continue reading

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How Long Does Grief Last? The Surprising Answer

We all want to know how long something terrible is going to last, knowing gives us a sense of control over the unknown and comforts us with the confident knowledge of an end. But grief is very different. We know that … Continue reading

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Grief During the Holidays: 5 Ways for Adults and Children to Remember

Each year as we prepare for and pass by our Candlelight Service of Remembrance I am confronted with the multitudes of losses experienced in our community in just 1 year. I think of these families and wonder how their holidays are … Continue reading

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A Crash Course in Listening: 3 Do’s and Don’ts

  One of the biggest concerns people have when they encounter a bereaved individual isn’t (strangely enough) how the bereaved person is doing, but “what do I say to them?” The secret to “what to say” is simple in theory, but ironic … Continue reading

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Seeing is Believing: The Empty Caskets of 9/11

There’s the age old phrase, “seeing is believing” and for so many of us, it rings true. At O’Connor we’ve seen families testify to this truth over and over, telling us that seeing their loved one at peace helped to bring … Continue reading

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A List You Need to Have | Planning Ahead for What You Want

Ok, have I got a list for you! As you know and perhaps have seen first hand, most families have to make decisions about ceremonies with only days to plan. A lot of special conversations are avoided because people are … Continue reading

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After They Die: Sorting Through Their “Stuff”

  Getting rid of someone’s stuff after they die is tough. It is an admission. For some people, it is the ultimate act of reconciling the permanence of a loss. A lot of “stuff” – baseball cards, the shirt from … Continue reading

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Mother’s Day Without Mom

Mother’s Day without Mom, it changes everything. What do you do? How do you “celebrate” the day? It is my mom’s first Mother’s Day without her mom. None of the usual, sweet birthday cards came from my grandma last month … Continue reading

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I Needed To See Her In That Pink Casket: Viewing Our Loved Ones

  When my grandmother died she looked grotesque. She suffered a sudden heart attack and was given CPR for quite a while before they stopped. When I walked in, a huge tube was in her mouth with flecks of blood, … Continue reading

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